3 Ways To Answer The Question, “Why Are You Still Single?”

The holidays can be hard when you’re still single. All of the parties and engagement commercials can be a constant reminder that you haven’t found The One yet.

Your family can also be a constant reminder that you haven’t found your perfect match.

I know what its like to be sitting around the dinner table with your aunties, cousins, and out of the blue, somebody says,“So, why are you still single? When are you gonna get a man? (Or if you have a man, they’ll ask when are you getting married, when are you gonna have kids?)”

Don’t you hate that question? It makes you feel judged. You get tired of having to defend your life and give an answer to every person.

I know you really want to say, “It’s none of your business!” but unless you want your family to clutch their pearls and give you the sideye, I’d like to suggest three ways to handle the “Why are you still single” question this holiday:

1) Own it!

Take ownership of your singleness. (It’s not a curse, you know!) Tell your family, you’re still single because you don’t want to make any mistakes. You know that every second with the wrong person, is a second you can’t spend with the right person. Then, tell them you’re looking for the right person and ask, “Do you know anyone?”

2. Understand it

Unless they’re just nosey, your family is really asking you this question from a genuine place of concern. They want to see you happy and just don’t know how else to say it. The point is, you don’t have to get defensive. Make sure you don’t tell yourself any crazy stories about what this question means, such as, “There must be something wrong with me because they asked me why I’m single.” It’s just a question.

3) Work on it

Take time during the holidays to work on yourself. If you’re single and you don’t want to be, its time to figure out why. Are you getting in your own way? Have you given up on love? Do you need to get back online and date again? Maybe you need to learn how to fall in love with yourself. Remember the happier you are, the more attractive you’ll be!

I want you to enjoy this season! There’s nothing wrong with you if you’re still single, and if I have anything to do with it, you won’t be single this time next year (if you don’t want to be, that is).

Source: Blackandmarriedwithkids.com

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